Even if you'd never been abused, you have probably seen a lot of instances in which you have seen the news and heard of someone that was abused. Thus, because it is so prevalent you end up dreaming of these things and fantasizing about them. In your dreams though, they might not actually be so bad in terms of dream interpretation.
A dream about domestic violence, domestic abuse etc can be very traumatizing because it will usually naturally lead you towards having different feelings about the person that you are with. Even though there might not be any substance to the dreams at all, they usually result in you feeling differently about your lover when they are done even though you think that you shouldn't feel this way. If you have a dream about domestic abuse or where you are abused then this could mean a number of things which will be discussed here.
If you have a dream where you are being abused by your lover then this could mean you feel like you are not being respected in your relationship. Your lover is not treating you with the respect you deserve. This idea of yours could have arisen from any number of places, but if you have a dream like this then there must be a place in your life where you feel like your ideas are not being respected. Does your lover always listen to you and pay attention to your ideas? Does he or she always pay attention to you when you call out for him or try to have a conversation with him? Does he ever objectify you? Your answers to these questions will determine for you if this is where your dream came from. A dream in which you are being abused could also relate to the idea of you not only being disrespected but not being treated like you deserve to be.
If you have a dream in which you are the abusive one then this might have some bearing on your life and what your dream means too. To dream that you are the abusive one in the relationship means that you feel like you are not respecting your lover like you should. As distraught as this dream is probably making you, you should know that overall this is a good thing; it is a good thing that you are able to realize that what you are doing is not good. There are many relationships that end early because the person that is being abusive or disrespectful never realizes that this is happening until it is already too late and the other partner has decided it is time to leave on his or her own.
If you have a dream where you are being abusive, the best thing to do when you wake up is just to make sure to pay more attention to your partner. You need to ask for her opinion more often, when she has an idea about something that conflicts with what you wanted to do or the way you viewed things, forget about your views for now and make sure that she sees what you want to do. She needs to tell that you are making a change so you need to be as obvious as possible about it if you want to really win back her favor.