Even when you've found it, it's been a struggle and effort. You have been and will continue to be misunderstood because of that, people will think you're aloof or uninterested. This is too bad because as you know, you have a lot to offer. 2020 is not a time for you to change this one tiny bit. Jupiter and Saturn are there at your back, supporting you and acting like your wing men. Their presence makes it that much easier to move and interact with confidence and grace.
January 2020 is a good time to look around at your current social circles and seeing who is there and if you're getting everything you need from them. Think of this as a social audit. You don't need to cut anyone from your life (unless they are truly toxic and harmful), but it's time to think about your social allocations. Are you putting more time into people who aren't fulfilling you? Then it's time to scale back and see where your energies could be better spent. And if you don't feel like you have an adequate social outlet, this is the time to find one. Spend your February 2020 looking at social situations that make you slightly uncomfortable. Is there a skill you think you'd enjoy but have been too afraid to pursue? Maybe an acting class or Krav Maga? It doesn't matter as long as it sits slightly out of reach for you currently. You're going to sign up for it, discomfort and all. Remember those planets are behind you, watching every step of the way. They've got your back.
If that experience doesn't build your confidence, it will at least show you that you can survive awkward situations. This is a very good skill to have, Virgo, and one that most people don't. While it might not make you fearless about the potentially awkward, give yourself credit for trying new things and putting yourself out there. And spring 2020 is going to be all about putting yourself out there.
It's been easy for you to hold back and expect people to come to you, but May 2020 is when you need to reverse the polarity on that and actually extend yourself out for others. This might mean actually approaching a person you're interested in. That's okay, you've got this! If ever there was a time to do this, it would be late May and early June. If there's no one you're interested in romantically, reach out to people you just find interesting in the hope of expanding and enriching your friend pool. The point is: you need to make the effort. And if it's a bust, what have you lost? Nothing. People will see a confident person who made an effort.
Lest you think this advice just pertains to romantic relationships, you'll want to reach out to family members as well. The prime time for this is in the autumn. It doesn't matter if this is your biological family, close friends you rely on or just the people you look up to for support. Again, make the effort and reach out - maybe farther out than you usually do - and renew and strengthen those connections. The confidence from that will not go unnoticed.
That's a lot of extensions, so think of December as your time to return to being that calm, quiet warrior again. It doesn't mean you're going to regress, but rather, you're going to look back on the 2020 year and reflect on everything you've done. Even if your efforts have come to naught (and there's no way that would be the case), you will have stretched yourself socially in ways you might not have thought possible. Rest, reflect, and be proud of yourself.
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