What happens when you take the most emotionally sensitive Moon of the zodiac and pair it off with the least emotionally sensitive Moon of the zodiac? EXACTLY. Watery Cancer Moon is like the rain that falls from the sky. Airy Aquarius Moon is like a tornado. Water weighs air down. Air dries up water. Together though, they are one hell of a storm. If these two actually make it to marriage, it would be a miracle or an elaborate practical joke on everyone they know. There are probably no two Moons that are as incompatible as Cancer Moon and Aquarius Moon.
Cancer Moon needs to nurturer and be nurtured. It has to be safe and protected. Aquarius Moon needs to change everything, turn it over, and make something new. Aquarius Moon hates all of the traditions and conventions that Cancer Moon holds dear. No, it doesn't want to have a white wedding. No, it doesn't want to have a house in the suburbs with a picket fence, 2 kids, an SUV, and a golden retriever.
If they grow old together, it is because they live apart, and because one has not killed the other. Cancer Moon wants nothing to do with Aquarius Moon's need to be shocking for the hell of it. Why paint the house black? Why refuse to say the blessing at dinner? Cancer Moon doesn't understand why Aquarius Moon insists on upsetting everyone by questioning everything or simply refusing to be a part of something with other people?
Aquarius Moon thinks that it is helping Cancer Moon be more rational. Cancer Moon thinks it is helping Aquarius Moon be more sensitive.
Aquarius Moon likes to think that it is a liberator. It tends to rationalize emotions, and it doesn't get upset easily. Cancer Moon, on the other hand, feels its emotions quite deeply and needs to express them when it has them. An argument between an Aquarius Moon and Cancer Moon is a stalemate. Aquarius Moon sees Cancer Moon as illogical, irrational, and out of control, like a bratty child. Cancer Moon sees Aquarius Moon as an unfeeling robot whom has no understanding of human emotions. In the end, they just don't speak the same language.
So what happens when you put one hot lover together with one hot freak? Cancer Moon wants to make love. Aquarius Moon wants to fuck.
Cancer Moon likes sex to reinforce the bond. Aquarius Moon likes sex for the novelty of it. Aquarius Moon wants to try new things. Sex doesn't require a big emotional investment for them. On the other hand, sex is an expression of the big emotional investment Cancer Moon makes. Cancer Moon wants foreplay, sweet whispers, soft music, and cuddling. Aquarius Moon wants to do whatever they didn't do last time. Nothing is taboo to them. While Cancer Moon may give in to try to please Aquarius Moon, it really needs to have the affection and reassurance that sexual intimacy can bring.
And Aquarius Moon just doesn't need that. Sex is friendly. Aquarius Moon doesn't even have to be in love (or even know someone well) in order to have sex with them. It's not that important. They can conceivably have sex with multiple partners. Cancer Moon mates for life, but Aquarius Moon is down with an orgy. Cancer Moon needs its partner to take it just as it is, but Aquarius Moon has no problem dressing up, or playing a role, or trying out a strange new sex toy. Cancer Moon feels unloved. Aquarius Moon feels misunderstood.
This chart needs more positive astrological factors to make it work. One of the problems with this match is that they're not only naturally incompatible, but if they live in the West, life will just reinforce their differences. Culturally speaking, the world is more understanding of what Cancer Moon wants than what Aquarius Moon wants. Cancer Moon has the backing of social approval. Aquarius Moon can feel that not only is Cancer Moon against them, but the world.
Cancer Moon has to let Aquarius Moon know that it loves Aquarius Moon as an individual, and not for how well it fits into Cancer Moon's idea of a proper lover or spouse. Aquarius Moon, in turn, has to also see Cancer Moon as an individual, and not a traitor clinging to conformity. If they can do that, they can learn from each other. Cancer Moon can teach Aquarius Moon how to appreciate tradition, and Aquarius Moon can teach Cancer Moon how to appreciate novelty.
Sun sign compatibility will get you so far. Sure, you get along well, but will they keep the home fires burning while you're gone? If you want to know if you are happy with Cancer Moon wanting you to stay on the farm, you must know if your Moon sign is compatible with this Moon sign. To determine if your Moon is in Cancer or Aquarius, put your birth date and birth time in our Natal Chart Calculator and do the same for your partner.